Category: Teen Topics
Hi All, I was thinking about staying home alone, and what you've thought about it. Was it scary at first? Did you like staying home alone? Well, I started staying home alone at age 15. It was scary at first, but gradually, I got used to it. I started staying by myself for 15 minutes, then 30 minutes, then an hour. I just started staying home alone all day last year. I'm still not quite ready to spend the night alone, but I'm working on that. I loved staying alone because of the privacy, and I can do things that I wouldn't dream of with my parent's around.
I don't remember when my first time staying home alone was, but I do know the first time made me feel nervous, but at the same time, I wanted my parents to know that I could stay alone and be fine. Actually, it was more my dad and the grandparents on his side of the family that were nervous about it. Sometimes I think they still are. But yeah, at first (before I had my cell phone), I was nervous in that I didn't know what I would do if anything happened, but now that I have my cell, I feel better since I can only answer that phone (which would mean just people I know). I really don't like to answer the house phone still though, when I'm alone anyway.
Wait. you want to move out on your own, and youre asking about being scared to stay alone at night/
I may regret asking this, but, to the original poster, what exactly do you do while you're home alone that you wouldn't dream of doing with your parents around?
As for the topic, staying home alone was never a big deal to me. I don't remember when I started doing it, but I was pretty young and my parents never made a big thing of it, so it never seemed like much to me.
i don't remember either, but it has never been a problem to me. it was just one occasion to have the peace i could hardly get here. and staying home alone at night, i love it for some reason i can't really explain
and chelsea, just think of it for a bit, what are the things you wouldn't dream of doing with your parents around? :p
Well, for the things I do home alone that I wouldn't dream of doing with my mom and dad around,
1. eat junk food
2. take naps
3. watch what I want on tv
4. use the computer without headphones
5. use the pac mate, for recording audio files, editing private documents, moving files, playing games on it, and so on.
6. watch my descriptive movies that I download without headphones.
7. sing, what I want without embarrassment.
8. Make phone calls that are private, just between me and the friend.
9. play school with my cabbage patch dolls
That may seem like a lot, but when doing these things, I'd rather be safe than sorry.
Staying home alone? Woohoo, party. Haha. Seriously I like staying home alone (I used to, when I was living at home) - no parents who control oyu ... who doesn#t like that?
Hmmm! Well, I can remembwer absolutely hating the idea of staying home alone. hat if something went wrong? what if something happened to me? What if thre was a brake-in? but, I didn't let myself think on it that first morning mum went to work and didn't drop me at my Grandparents. I just had to wait 3 hours or so for my Grandparents to pick me up and take me back to their place just down the road, but then my confidence just seemed to grow from there and I was able to stay at home for the full ten hours mum was at work, knowing my Granddparents were only at the other end of the phone. Then, mum strted having a few nights out with friends, sometimes staying over in various hotels and things and I quickly got used to a big empty house as our place is, with all this space to rattle around in, I could watch TV till whenever, stay on the internet till whenever and not worry about mum kicking me off so I'd get some sleeep, it was the best feeling in the world. Tne next step for me then, it to live on my own, permanently.
Jen.
Aw'w'w god! Don't know what happened to my spelling there, lollol.
I think it's good to have time alone in your house sometimes. You really need that privacy. Not that you don't have privacy but when you're by yourself, you don't have to worry about disturbing anyone. You can have the music as loud as you want it and so on so I very much value times like those.
Kerby
It would be nice, to the original poster, if you had a room in the house where you could listen to jaws etc. without headphones, even if others are around. I think you should ideally be able to do most of these things with your parents around. The majority aren't overly private.
Well, Like I said, I just love home alone time. It's so peaceful. When I was about 13 or so, my mom would talk about leaving me by myself. I'd worry about what if something happened, and what to do If I somehow couldn't get a hold of mom. Back then, I had the conclusion that since mom was miles away, I couldn't contact her if there was an emergency. Now, I'm not afraid to stay alone, but if an emergency occured, I would be scared, but I think I know what to do.
Make sure you have emergency numbers available to you, and this goes for looking after your sister. If she choked on something you'd have to call 911, and listen to the dispatcher give you instructions on how to perform the heimlich Maneuver. It also helps to take a CPR course at your local Red Cross Chapter, if you can get to it easily. as for staying home alone, I love it. I crank up my music and pretty much do as I please, as long as I don't throw a huge party. lol I don't have many of my friends here with whom to arrange such a thing anyway, as they're all off at school. hope this helps.
It's a coensidence, I'm home alone now. I'm using my pac mate to go on the zone, which I'd never do with mom and dad around.
Isn't that better than going on the zone on the computer?
Both are fine, but I just wanted to try using the internet on the pac mate, to see what it's like. I like the internet on the computer just fine.
and what if you do that when mommy and daddy are around?
She means, what if you use the internet while on the pack mate when your parents aren't home.
Besides school work, I only use the pac mate when I'm home alone. I listen to music, record audio files, play games on it, write private documents, move files to and from the pac mate. What mom and dad don't realize is the pac mate has many uses, and if they see me doing any of those things with the pacmate, mom and dad may not approve.
You could do that anyway because your parents can't see what's going on on the pacmate but the computer is another story.
She's right.
Well, they can't see what's going on on the pac mate, but it has a braille display and my mom can read braille.
Yeah, but by the tim mom com to red brile, yo clos out pac mat.
Well, I sing only when I'm home alone because I don't want to be embarrased by my family finding out that I'm singing, and what I'm singing,and I'd disturb everyone else, especially with my singing voice.
I don't mean to be rude, but yes, your voice does disturb others, It might help to take some voice lessons. Singing seems to be something you like to do, so finding a professional who's willing to take the time and has the patience to assist you in that area could help you feel better about yourself. I'm not saying you should go in to it professionally either; that's up to you.
I've listened to the audio files you have on your web site, and I must say there is work to be done. In general, you do sing in key, but you tend to get very sharp as songs continue. Your understanding of time signatures and rhythm seem very strong as well. Having perfect pitch is a curse. lol
that was certainly not on the subject of this topic. my appologies.
hmm, staying home alone? love it, and still do. the first time was when I was about twelve or so. now I can't wait for the quietness to come...lol don't we all need time like that? I mean yeah I was scared at first, but I got used to it.
As did I. It just takes time to adjust.
when you were scared to stay alone, what put yu to ease?
You just get used to it overtime. Oh yes and begin to apreciate the time alone.
just find something to do that you enjoy doing, and you'll get so wrapped up in it that you won't even notice the time's passed. I love doing that. steven's not just a guide, he's a best friend and companion if I get bored and lonely. lol
and I can talk to him, and call me crazy, but I have this funny feeling he understands me. not hanging on my every word, but he goes by my tone of voice more than anything else.
I can believe that. Dogs are great because they have personality and they make great listeners.
Preoccupy yourself with something. It really passes the time along.
Like coming on the Zone. lollol It keeps my fingers busy.
I was sort of a latchkey kid growing up, so it never was really a big deal. I knew where everything was, and also knew my neighbors, so they'd know that I was there and I knew that I could go to them if there was a problem. I thought that I'd be lonely when I finally got my own place, but I love it, and I'm not sure how I'd get along when I move and maybe have to get a roommate, due to financial reasons. But if being totally alone bothers anyone, I recommend getting a pet. I have a 7 year old dog and an 8 year old cat, and I really never feel truly alone. It's comforting to having another living being in the apartment with me. smile
The only downside is my dad comes home for lunch at all different times, and I have to juggle the time I have alone, and estimate the time he comes home so I won't be doing something I dohn't want him knowing about.
Lol! I just go about my normal things. Reading, writing, eating, and all. I am not incrediblly close to my family, not really actually, so I just feel normal. I don't even talk to them much when they are home. I just tend to think of the subject of death and dying lots more. I don't want to kill myself, but...
If I had the money, one advantage of staying home alone is that I could sneak out! I could go out to eat, go shopping, and Noone would know that I left hoem.
Hmmm! Well I myself just do what all typical teenagers/big kids do when they're home alone, everything their mums don't want 'em to do, lmfao, and what the hell? If mum catches me, what the hell? lmfao. Don't mind your parents DL87, just go with the flow an' if they catch you out, just keep on, going with the flow.
Jen.
Jen.
Lol! You don't know my mom, so... but I still do things behind her back.
Gen, I do the same things that you do when I'm home alone. As long as mom doesn't know what I'm doing, I'll be ok.
You don't know my mum either. Though not very strict, she'll turn her nose right up at anyone getting rat-arsed in her presence, staying up late so that keeps her awake, not budging out of bed until you're tempted downstairs at 12:00 mid day with the promise of a fry-up or sausage or bacon sarnies, lmfao. She's due home in around an hour's time anyway when she'll expect me to be ready so we can go round my Grandparents for Friday night tipples, lol. Today for instance, I've been mucking about on various websites that interest me, such as Youtube, drifting in and out of the land of nod in my pit till around 5 past 1 this afternoon, I then got up and had a brunch consisting of the last quorn burger, a cappuccino and a couple of soft boiled eggs, yum'm'm'my, as we're clean out of desserts, something I wouldn't get away with when mum's around, then I came back up here, woke the laptop up and here I am, lmfao, so don't hide everything from your mum. You never know, she might even be interested, lmfao.
Jen.
My mum doesn't care so much. I tell her I do my exercises when she's gone, because I hate it, but I don't actually do them then either.
My mom may or may not be interested in what I do when I'm home alone, but I'd rather be safe than sorry. I attempted to do my first podcast when I was home alone. The attempt failed because I was having trouble with my recording software. Anyway, If I did that when everybody was home,I'd be laughed at and my family would say I was talking to myself.
Is it so fucking difficult to tell them what you're doing before you go and record?! I think not. Sheesh!
I said the same in another topic.
Yeh, I could do that, but I don't think they'd approve.
For Christ's sake! just do it. It can't hurt!
My God Dl87, what sort of family do you have that they are so obsessed with what you're doing every second?! Sounds to me more like you may just be overly self-conscious, like you're afraid of your own shadow. I haven't read enough of your other posts to know your life circumstances, but to me, reading this one thread, I don't understand your paranoia about using the computer when your folks are home. Why should anyone care if you rearrange files on your own computer? That's just silly!
And forgive me, but... cabbage patch dolls? LOL How old are you, if I may ask?
I began staying home alone at nine or ten, I think, during summers. My mother worked full time, so my younger sister and I were alone all day. It was never a problem, except, I, as the older sister, longed for the authority to be boss, but my sister never bought into that. LOL It's just too easy to ignore or mock a blind sister.
Anyway, I always loved being home absolutely alone, and I still do. I love living alone, as well.
yep living alone is great; nothing like it! I've been out on my own for six years now, so having a couple of friends here bording here for the past three months got very tiresome! I'm still getting use to being alone again! I wake up and think Yes, it's just me, myself and I now, wohoo! :)
I have a few comments as I read. First I wouldn't share my computer with anyone. It's inconvenient and at times invasive. Granted I'm on the work computer I still have my own control luckily. Otherwise I love living alone. Most my family are thousands of miles from me and there are only a few close friends I look in on regularly. I'm finally at a point in my life at 32 years of age where I'm truly happy. I noticed in the past when there were obligations (family or otherwise) I had constant stress. Some people when they live alone deal with different anxiety most of it involving people and their externals. I'm proud to say that at last now I have none of that kind of baggage to speak of. Noone depends on me and vice versa. I have no physical nor emotional attachments and it's liberating. Of course being lonely I still get on the computer and converse with strangers all over the world but at least they are not in my living room. It be a totally different matter if I actually had to entertain people in my house. I don't even like it when others stop by unannounced. Usually if the doorbell rings I ignore it unless it's been prearranged. I haven't any land line so it;'s yet more difficult to set up. However with out the land line I've experienced many more freedoms. I certainly have no obligations to ma bell, besides in the past some of my emotional attachments were people threw the phone as well. Now I'm free of them. So once you move out of that house with mom or dad, you won't notice all these advantages I bring forth right away. It comes with experience and age. And now as I talk to you; the ability to not be interrupted. I can finish my thoughts with out rude interjections. If this was discus in some conference I dare say, would take all night.
Christina, she is twenty years old. No, twenty-one. cabbage patch dolls, I ask you ... *shakes head*
I couldnt wait until my parents left the house when I lived at home. I would pull out my hidden cigarettes, smoke one, and then turn the stereo up loud after locking the doors and rock out to Judas Priest or some other mind numbing rock. I would either do that or read a lot when they were gone. I couldn't wait to get them out the door.
Oh yes, Rachel, there's nothing like having one's own place, and that lovely feeling of coming back to your quiet, ordered just as you left it apartment, after being out and busy. Very simple things, but I love walking in, putting on the kettle for tea, dishing up the dog food (when I had a dog) and settling in with a book, possibly, or a bath or a long chat on the phone, with no one to disturb me.
... And I think I owe Download87 a bit of an apology! I did not see that this was under teen topics, when I originally posted. I'm sorry for chuckling at the Cabbage Patch dolls.
actually I might have been one of a few that didn't understand the cabbage patch reference so I figured it was some inside joke between you. Incidentally the thing about being excited because you have the house to yourself, if anything that was more than a relief in my place. When people had places to go and they weren't always sitting about here it was definitely refreshing to say the least. As far as the smoking thing, for years my folks were after me about smoking in the house and as I got older I found they were the ones stealing my stuff. Obviously fill in the blanks for yourself. They would crab at me about leaving behind a mess. They made more of one trying to clean up before I got home so I wouldn't know what they were doing. I may have left papers and crums on my desk or bed, but it's kindof noticeable there's unfinished stubs around and I always clean those so I know it ain't me. Hypocrisy is something! My brother practiced it as well. He'd be after me for drinking or something else, then he does it too. So do as I say not as I do! ha ha
I accept your appology. The best time to stay by myself is when friends are over. What fun!
I'm not sure what age I started staying home alone at, but usualy when I'm home, I'll sit down, jump on here or miriani or alter, crank up the music, or sit at my PS2, and play me some final fantasy or something.
I started staying home alone at about 12/13, and it used to really freak me out. I was always afraid when places got quiet when I was younger, so a quiet house just really scared me. I'd always imagine I could hear the door opening downstairs and whatnot; that's why I was always glad to have the dogs. I like it now though, because it gives me quality quiet time to myself that I don't often get - not with my brother's TV always going and my parents always talking about something or other ... Very loud house. So when I'm home alone, I get time to do what I want to do and not get interrupted by all the noise. :)
for post 6% you have set yourself up for some great embarrassment. You let your parents control your life and you just bend over backwards and let them take control. Now, I don't know you that well, however you need to stand up for yourself and your rights. As for playing with your cabbage patch dolls that is one thing you do not say on here. You are 22, and you are still playing with little plastic dolls. You should be occupied enough on that note. of course when there is nothing on tv except Opera then I can concur with you. But as for being 22 and still being scared you migth want to check in with your local clinic. That is not normal to be truthfuly honest.
not normal to be truthfully honest? then what the hell are you, truthfully or farsantly dishonest? in any case, I am a bit surprised to find others who are still nice in replying to the post. However, I would find it embarrassing too. You should step out a bit more.
That's what I said, truthfully honest is very redundant. Anyway, to contribute to the post, staying home alone never bothered me. In fact I enjoy it. To post 6, nothing you mentioned was the least bit rebellious, shocking, or bad. Oh my God, you used the Pac Mate to store personal files...Forgive me for asking, but isn't that what it's for? And eating junk food? What, so you only eat it when no one's around? That sounds like a problem to me. Also totally agree with what Cody said about the Cabbage Patch dolls.
I agree with the last 3 posts. Also, um cody? 6 percent? :D
Good Christ! "play school with my cabbage patch dolls
" You really need to get out more. Sheesh!
I must correct a couple of things.
First of all cody, I'm not 22, 21. Second, my dolls aren't hard plastic. They're soft. But really, that comment was uncalled for.
i just love staying home alone1 I remember when I lived with my stepfather staying home alone was much better than being around him. And when I was visiting my older sister a year or so ago I got to stay lone for the night! Of course she'd told her neighbor and left me a list of phone numbers a mile long. I watched what I wanted on tv, played my own cds in the cd player, and talked on the phone to my best friend for like five hours. When my grandmother was working I stayed home alone every day unless my uncle had the day off.
lmfaooo to the posts on here. make me laugh. well miss dl87, i have to say taht staying at home by myself is not a big problem with me. i started staying home alone since i was ten years old and it never bothered me. i'm fourteen now, and staying at home alone by myself during is still a littl bit unerving, but still, its fun because i can do whatever i want. and .. cabbage patch dolls? lmao. i never played with those even when i was little, maybe you need to see a psychologist to help you with your fears, lol
lmfaooo to the posts on here. make me laugh. well miss dl87, i have to say taht staying at home by myself is not a big problem with me. i started staying home alone since i was ten years old and it never bothered me. i'm fourteen now, and staying at home alone by myself during is still a littl bit unerving, but still, its fun because i can do whatever i want. and .. cabbage patch dolls? lmao. i never played with those even when i was little, maybe you need to see a psychologist to help you with your fears, lol
to 64. Katy please, that is embarrassing. seriously it is
So what if the dolls are soft or hard? How does that make a difference? The point is you are 21 years old and SHOULD NOT BE PLAYING SCHOOL, LET ALONE WITH DOLLS, AT ALL. Note the all caps in that last sentence.
For fuck's sake, give them to someone who actually NEEDS them.
I think we do also need to remember that we're dealing with someone who is mentally delayed, and with all that I've read, it's pretty doubtful that she
will ever be able to truly be independant, so what's wrong with playing with the dolls?
here here! How on earth, can someone who plays with cabbage patch, barbie or cindy dolls age from around 11 years old onward. my cousin Kezzie, just turned 14 two weeks ago today and she received her last doll's pushchair or for want of a better word, stroller, for Christmas when she was around ten. She has a younger sister by three years whom she can hand it down to after she's done with it, so I think she probably has and she now has a very grown-up real life version of a doll to play with, her 16-month-old baby brother that is, plus MSN, Facebook or whatever on any computer that happens to be vacant, plus her fairly new all-singing, all-dancing mobile phone. As for me, all my dolls were either destroyed or sent to the charity shop when I was around 9, 10 years old. They were just too babyish for words, but I still keep a couple of beanies, teddies and various other stuffed toys in this lobster pot stacker thing over by my "library" book case, so we all have to move on sometime, even though we don't feel we want to.
Jen.
Jen.
O right, that last post didn't make sense. I meant, how on earth does DL87 expect to fit in with society if she still plays with cabbage patch and other baby toys age 21? lmfao.
but, you do have to remember, the dolls will never say anything to her about the smell. I really hate to be so cruel, but all I'm really saying is, just about the only personal friends she'll have is her dolls. They will totally except her for who she is. She doesn't have to change anything at all for them. They love her unconditionally.
very sad ...
Well, just because she's developmentally delayed or however you put it doesn't mean she can't have some normal traits. The longer she plays with dolls, and has this...attachment to them, the longer she'll still not fit in with society. This is why we have the term blindisms, and they're not pretty.
I really don't think this has anything to do with being blind, or blindisms. I too would like to see her grow up, take daily showers, and the likes, but while the daily showering is probably possible to achieve, the whole growing up thing may not be. How quickly the blind tends to forget that other handicaps may also be involved. All they worry about is whether it makes them look bad or not.
Come on, Garet. sorry if I misspellled your name. what have you got to say on this subject?
well, let me think...I know I sent you a novel of a post, and perhaps I'll put it up exactly as I said it, but not right now
I totally agree with everything that Anthoney said, good god people. She has mental problems. Try bing a bit more compassionat will you? I'd feel sorry for any of your children or loved ones with any similar problems.
No, I only make fun of people I don't know. If it was somebody I cared about, I wouldn't.
I would, fuck it, if someone deserves to be made fun of, of course I would do it. I'd do it to my best friend if it was necessary
I make fun of my friends, but usually people i don't know, i won't.
I love being home alone. It's the one time I can move freely about the house without having the fear of being yelled at. Being home alone at night is weird for me, because there's no specific time that everyone in the house goes to bed in that case, so I go to bed and wake up at really weird times.
Being home alone is awesome party! As for the dolls ... no comment.
I know what you meant by criticizing her problems with the dolls, and I would think it more effective if she was given advice and suggestions. I don’t know how developed her communications skills are, but I’d suggest she get some help with communications and such. I wasn’t the best communicator either, but I wasn’t too bad, I was just a huge critic. I got some help by way of a book and I’d just seen so much more work done.
I mean just look at my previous post and such, and you keep on observing me now, there is a difference.
God, I was such an idiot to post like I did.
I started staying home alone around the age of thirteen or fourteen. I was scared at first, too. But I liked it a lot because of the privacy. My family is a bunch of noisy people so I liked the quieterness. lol When my family is away, I can actually enjoy the rest of the house. They're so noisy, so I try to keep my departure from my room on the minimum.
omg i've seen this board before but never actually clicked on it and omg is all i have to say. like dalls, seriously? jesus h.
but as far as staying home, i love it cuz i just love having the house to myself, no loud crying kids, and i could go and watch tv in peace for a little while.
I could go out of my room and talk on the phone without feeling like my stepmom and dad are listening in on my convos, don't ask me why they do this they just do
what are cabbage patch dolls anyway, i haven't even heard of them though i still have some barbie dolls i keep in my room since one of the landlords who passed away gave it to me for christmas when i was about 12 years old.
i still have that in my room.
and the last doll i recieve was when i was 14 in the eighth grade that came with a round plastic purse full of rubbery clothes. i still charish it.
oh, and by the way i have a small stuffed animal i keep at my dorm just for the sake of it cause i recieved it from a friend who went to peru
but i think this person who originally posted this thread has developmental issues from what i can read on these posts even though i don't know her that well, but that is only my personal view.
and i think yall need to stop judging people harshly sometimes and just thank the lord lol.
i am used to being alone in my house and not scared because i can talk to my cat and tell him how i feel whenever mom gets mad at me for some reason.
I love staying at home alone!! We have a houseful here, so whenever they leave it's "party time!!" for me. Lol.
Yeah, cabbage patched dolls are heavy cloth dolls and people use them in Homemec.
Oh, and I do have a doll, except you don't play with it, it’s one of those glass dolls. It’s just decoration.
Staying home alone was never a big thing for me even before I got a mobile phone I didnt get one until I was 15 but my parents used to leave me home alone from when I was twelve. Now I am 21 and living alone 1800 kilometres away from them in a uni apartment having to cook and clean and shop and do everything for myself. The one thing I used to like is when they came back at night and went to bed, I would wait until they were asleep and then rade their liquor cabinet and steal dad's smokes. Shame really cuz now I've never been able to quite give both habits up now that I am out of home lol.
I love nicking food from the kitchen... after like two...
I agree with the shu. Leave her alone. If you want to critisize her still playing with dalls, give her suggestions of other things to do or something. Be nice, because you would hate to have people talking about you that way. I still have a doll I got when I was like 3 or 4. I found it in my closet the other day and brought it out to see if my little cousin wanted to play with it. She's a year and a half. I actually ended up changing its clothes since it was wearing winter sleeper. Little kids bring out the kid in you. Then I put it away when my cousin wasn't interested lol. That's the first time since I was like 10 or so that I even sort of oplayed with a doll.
I stay home alone every day. I've been doing it my whole life. It's no big deal anyway. The only t3ing I do when I'm home alone that I don't do when my family is here is cuss really loud.
jen91_09, it's fine to say you don't like it when others talk about you that way...but putting words in other's mouths isn't right. quite frankly, if people can't handle what I say, they don't have to interact with me. nuff said.
Exactly. I don't put words in other people's mouths. But yeah, I like staying home alone. I get privacy. And I love to talk on the phone when I'm by myself.
Well, Mom has to work for at least 12 hours most days, and I love it!I can practice my voice acting skills with people on skype without feeling embarrassed about how stupid my voice sounds, LOL. I can be on the iPod touch and no one will complain about the speech. I don't really have parties or anything, but I may be in huge conferences on skype, and stuff like that. I also use the ime to rant to a few people about he Alabama school for the blind, and how I can't get into a public school around here cause they say they can't (won't) teach me.